Ping love Joy

今天看到朋友傳來的這篇文章　心理總是有份熟悉的感覺　曾經自己也活的那麼灑脫　但在現實的社會裡　勇氣總是會悄悄地被脆弱所取代　下課回家　整理著菜餚　在廚房為家人獻上的晚餐　總是讓自己會心的一笑　因為今天我又做了件有意義的事　人生或長或短　就看妳如何取捨　給自己一點勇氣吧　不要讓忙碌的社會壓力　取代了內心的堅持　

Ready or not, someday it will all come to an end. 不管你是否有心理準備與否，人生總有盡頭。

前天新看的一本好書　特地勾選幾則書中的摘要和大家分享　這讓我想起　“　大師輕鬆讀“　這款雜誌　也是為了忙碌的現代人而寫的　雖然往往書中要表達的意念只有幾則　但卻動則三、四百頁，常令人望而生卻，但我個人覺得看重點　節錄摘要固然可以節省大量的時間，但每個人的價值觀不盡相同，還是建議有時間的你，不如泡杯咖啡　，　來本好書吧！　以下為本人觀看此書後的重點摘錄 Getting Things Done Geoffrey M. Bellman 年輕就有影響力 1. 回答“ＷＨＡＴ“的問題是表面的有形和物質，“ＷＨＹ“則會觸動具体目標背後真正的信念和價值觀 2. 領導不論是在那個層級，都是幫助他人抬起頭來，看見他們的欲，並朝著那目標前進 3. 看清欲望，可以激發能量與行動　 4. 不管做什麼，我們都是“想要“達到生命中那些更重要的目標。追求這些格局更大的欲望，使得生命更有意義 5. 想要動員其他人之前，自己必須先動。你必須對自己想要什麼，以及朝著這些欲望前進的能力與意願，有常清楚的了解 6. 想在工作方面有所成就，首要之務便是堅持並奮力追求生命中你想要的東西，亦即你的欲望 7. 今天，此刻的行動都在形塑我們的未來，我們正在移動，然而我們正朝著什麼目標移動 8. 想要的東西若與生命意義無關，就不是那麼重要，設法在生命裡的每一天都做一點你真正想要做的事　 9. 你一定會在做你想要做的事和做你必須做的事中，看到很大的區別 10. 當我們做的不是自己真正想要做的事情時，我們做的就是別人想要我們做的事 11. 發掘現實的五個步驟： a. identify issue b. gather information c. know/understand d. respect/accept e. decide/act

上個月剛看完這本書，　覺得裡面有很多耐人尋味的道理，特地用紅筆畫了起來，昨晚花了些時間整理在電腦上，　希望也可以和我的好朋友們一起分享它！ 1. That was the end of his privacy. 2. Accept what you are able to do and what you are not able to do 3. Accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it 4. Learn to forgive yourself and to forgive others 5. Don’t assume that it’s too late to get involved. 6. I traded lots of dreams for a bigger paycheck, and I never even realized I was doing it. 7. Love wins, Love always wins. 8. The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be strong enough to say if the culture doesn’t work, don’t buy it. 9. So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. 10. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning. 11. If you really want it, then you’ll make your dream happen. 12. Because it’s the ultimate sign of dependency. 13. Someone wiping your bottom. But I’m working on it. I’m trying to enjoy the process. Yes, after all, I get to be a baby one more time. 14. Now that I’m suffering, I feel closer to people who suffer than I ever did before. 15. The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out ove, and to let it come in. 16. Love is the only rational act. 17. Morrie waited on those kisses like a puppy waits on milk. 18. Everyone knows they’re going to die, but nobody believes it. If we did, we would do things differently. 19. To know your’re going to die, and to be prepared for it at any time. That way you can actully be more involved in your life while your’re living. 20. Once you learn how to die, you learn how to live. 21. It’s natural to die. The fact that we make such a big hullabaloo over it is al because we don’t see ourselves as part of nature. We think because we’re human we’re something above nature. 22. Death ends a life, not a relationship 23. Talk about how much we mean to each other. 24. There is no such thing as “ too late “ in life. 25. Well, the truth is , if you really listen to that bird on your shoulder, if you accept that you can die at any time then you might not be as ambitious as you are. 26. There is no experience like having children. 27. Aging is not just decay, you know. It’s growth. 28. Because if you’ve found meaning in your life, you don’t want to go back. You want to go forward. 29. How can I be envious of where you are—when I’ve been there myself. 30. We put ur values in the wrong things. And it leads to very disillusioned lives. 31. Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. 32. Offering others what you have to give. 33. People haven’t found meaning in their lives, so they’re running all the time looking for it. 34. They don’t know who they are themselves—so how can they know who they’re marrying? 35. If you don’t respect the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don’t know how to compromise, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can’t talk openly about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don’t have a common set of values in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike. 36. Love each other or perish. 37. The little things I can obey. But the big things—how we think, what we value—those you must choose yourself. You can’t let anyone—or any society – determine those for you. 38. It’s the same for women not being thin enough, or men not being rich enough. It’s just what our culture would have you believe. Don’t believe it. 39. Invest in the human family. Invest in people. Build a little community of those you love and who love you. 40. Love each other or die. 41. Forgive yourself before you die. Then forgive others. 42. It’s not just other people we need to forgive, we also need to forgive ourselves. 43. Make peace. You need to make peace with yourself and everyone around you.